A day in the life of a mother

This blog is about a day in the life of a frum (orthodox Jewish) mother with small children.

Thursday, October 28, 2004

My 30 week prenatal check up

Crap! My glucose tolerance test came back borderline. I didn't gain any weight since last month, which is good. I was worried, as it was quite rapid at one point but now has evened out. My doc told me my blood sugar was not great, but liveable for the remainder of the pregnancy and won't have an ill effect on the baby. (I.e. i don't have to test my blood sugar every day etc.). But I am supposed to stay away from foods that are high in sugar content, etc. He said because my blood sugar levels were not that badly over the normal levels, I will only be at a slight increase for diabetes later in life. (if I had full blown gestational diabetes, my risk would be much higher of developing diabetes). Still, I am worried. I am meeting my doula next week G-d willing to go over foods I should stay away from. ( Bye bye mashed potatoes :(...) Also, because I never got a chance to lose much weight from my other 3 kids, my doula was worried about the gestational diabetes thing. I am seeing my ob again in 2 weeks, where I will G-d willing be 32 weeks.

On another note.. He wore his glasses today in school!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Not all day, but for a good half hour. Due to the other attempts to get him to wear them, they got a bit loose, so they were sliding down his nose, according to his teacher, so after school, I had them adjusted. I was a bit annoyed, as the lady who adjusted them the last time was there, and she ignored us and let the other lady help us. (I think its because he gave her a really hard time last time and she didn't want to deal with it. but he is 4!! I felt it was unprofessional.) Hopefully tomorrow he will wear them for even longer.

And one more side note: My dad and sister are coming up from New Jersey to visit me this weekend. Yay! :)

Wednesday, October 27, 2004

My son is anti-glasses!

My four year old son takes after me with his stubborness. Today is his first day of glasses wearing (well, it was supposed to be, anyway). He wouldn't put them on for me before school, so at school, his teachers tried, all day, with no luck to get him to wear it. Even one of the other mothers with whom I am friendly with, tried to get him to wear it, and she even got me these little black sleeve things that go on the end of the arm rest thing of the glasses that helps to hook it behind his ears. (the band for the glasses was a disaster.). His teachers wouldn't let him do certain activities if he was not wearing his glasses, such as getting to play an instrument during music session or taking a turn sitting on the new kid size couch the classroom got, to look at books during free play time. Even one of the teachers in the classroom who normally wear contacts wore her glasses today to help him with glasses wearing. Tomorrow is a new day, so hopefully he will wear them then. I heard there was another student in the class who, the first time he had to wear his glasses he threw them in the school toilet, and now the child wears it all the time willingly. If he is still not wearing them by next week I will call the opthamologist's office to see what they recommend.

On another note, I am feeling kind of annoyed at comments from strangers and people I know regarding my size, (I am almost 31 weeks pregnant). "wow, are you carrying twins?" "Wow, you look huge!" "wow, you still have 10 weeks to go????" Thanks, I feel much better and less self concious now. I am feeling kind of pissy about it actually. Pregnancy hormones I guess :P
Today is a grouchy day for me. Next person who makes a comment about how I am carrying so big I am going to make a comment about the size of their bottom, stomach, and see how they feel :P Sorry I am not one of those pregnant girls who carries so perfectly it looks like they have a ball stuffed down their shirt :P

Ok, I think I am done venting now...Tomorrow is my ob appointment . I will post more then..

Monday, October 25, 2004

meet my friend, Mr. Braxton Hicks...

UGH! I don't know if this is because its my fourth pregnancy or a warning of premature labour.. I am 30 weeks pregnant now with #4, B"H. But for the past few days, I have been having uncomfortable cramping and contractions. But not like labour contractions, so I am assuming its braxton hicks contractions. I left a message on my doula's machine asking her if it's something of concern or normal being its my fourth. I know I am probably doing too much, and spending too much time on my feet..but I have things I need to take care of so I don't have a lot of leisure time to rest. I know what she is probably going to tell me: Drink 2 oz of light red wine to see if that will stop the cramps, then try taking a warm but not hot bath to relax the muscles to see if that works, and lay on my left side after the bath while I rest. ( had this problem with pregnancy #3, but I had an irritable uterus then from a placental abruption from a bad fall I had in the park thanks to a broken sidewalk.) This time i don't see any cause for an irritable uterus. In any case, I have my 30 week check up with my ob this Thursday so I will ask him then. Then I will be going back every two weeks, and then in december, every week. It's getting close! :)

Thursday, October 21, 2004


Sleep! I am so tired, that is what I feel like doing all day. I am going to be 30 weeks pregnant on Saturday G-d willing. Lately, I do 2 errands and feel totally exhausted. I am used to having a lot of energy. Guess I will have to start taking it easier now. (hear that hubby? Do the dishes tonight :P)

This morning, my oldest woke up looking for his watch, at 6:45 a.m. I was so tired, I thought it was 3 am and told him go back to sleep, it's still the middle of the night, only to look at the clock and realize it was wake up time indeed. I went to bed at a normal hour the night before and was surprised at how tired I was. I guess also that it was still very dark outside had a lot to do with the confusion of what time it was. Soon we will turn the clocks back and it won't be as dark.

I also noticed more cramping and braxton hicks lately too. Now I am in the home stretch so I should probably expect more of that to come. I made up my birth plan today to give to my doula when we meet in a few weeks to go over the final details. (epidural please!! :P).

As an aside, getting back to my son and the eye glass thing, his eyes are still dilated from the drops yesterday! Apparently it can last 36 hours until it wears off. Poor kid. He was not happy at trying on frames yesterday. In fact he threw a major hissy fit in sears optical and attracted a lot of attention (No, the floor did not listen to me and swallow me up LOL). I was pretty embarrassed but the optician understood, as the glasses were new to him, and she's seen this before lots of times with other kids). Apparently he has an extremely strong prescription. +625 on both sides. (Have no clue what that means but the optician told me she hasn't really seen such thick lenses for a kid before). we settled on gold wired frames, that, if my son decides to twist them, they won't break. The optician demonstrated to me by twisting them. cool. :) they should be ready by next week hopefully. I bought a band that goes around the back of his head and hooks up to the temples of the glasses to help him keep them on his head. We got them scratch guarded too, of course, and a warranty that if they break, all we have to do is pay 10 percent of the cost of a new pair. Good, because his lenses were 100 bucks each!.

I am hoping once my 4 year old realizes how much better he can see with the glasses on that he will want to keep them on.

Monday, October 18, 2004

How to convince a 4 year old to wear glasses..

I will soon be learning how to keep glasses on a four year old. Today I took my newly turned four year old to the opthomologist as his eyes were turning in a bit, very frequently. After an examnation he was diagnosed with being far sighted. Everyone on both sides of the family wears glasses, including myself ( I am near sighted) though hubby hasn't needed glasses since age 16, B"H.

I have to take my son back to the doctor on Wednesday, after putting some prescription drops in his eyes 3 times, a half hour apart, an hour and a half before the appointment. (Gee, that should be fun and easy to do LOL especially since I will be on the road with my mother in law and kids on the way to the appointment..) I am trying to talk to my son about the drops, and he is not too thrilled. He of course, like any other normal 4 year old, is saying I don't want eye drops mommy. I hope it won't be too difficult to put them in. The doc needs to have his eyes dilated, I am assuming so he can give a very close examination and determine the strength of the eye glass prescription needed. After that, we will be off to the optical to pick out some nice glasses for him. He is actually excited about the glasses wearing part. I am trying to find some type of band I see other kids wearing that helps keep the glasses on, kind of like the chain for older people, but this one is designed for kids. I've asked around and there is one particular store that sells it. I will make a trip down there after I buy the glasses.

I wonder how many pairs I will go through this year LOL. :) Luckily the place I plan on buying from has a good insurance policy the first year of the glasses. You only pay 10 percent of the cost if you have to replace the glasses.

Wish me luck on the eye drops thing on Wednesday. I am actually kind of anxious about it, knowing how hard it was to put the drops in his eyes when he had conjunctivitis last year...

Sunday, October 17, 2004

My baby is 4 today!

My lil baby is 4 today! I can't believe how time flies. He told me he is not a baby but a big boy the other day.. at least he still lets me hug and kiss him :) My mother in law tells me I have till he is about 7 before he starts wiping it off. She that that is the age hubby did that.
4 years ago today I was in the hospital holding my then 8 pounds 7 ounces ( now almost 40 pounds) baby boy in my arms, learning what being a mother was all about.
A lot has been accomplished in four years. Now, B"H, I am a mom to 3 and 3/4 (I am due in 11 weeks Im Yirtze Hashem with #4) Remembering the first time I ever changed a diaper, the first time I ever saw my first little baby smile, the first ear infection, the first time he crawled,stood,walked) brings a smile to my lips. May the next four years for him be just as sweet and filled with joy as it was since the day he was born. My lil baby boy is 4 today..wow..

Sunday, October 10, 2004

Whew...now that Yom Tov is over...

I feel like all I have done for the past two weeks was eat and sleep due to what felt like non stop yom tov. Not that I am complaining about that or anything :) It was hard for the kids though as their schedules were disrupted by eating away at the in laws, and my oldest son was having muppet movie withdrawal and kept asking if he could please watch the muppets (he is a bit obsessed with the muppets at the moment. His favourite is Gonzo :)
I managed to survive another three day yom tov at the in laws :) I must say that towards the end of yom tov I felt a bit grouchy. (pregnancy hormones..what can I say?) I guess too much togetherness with inlaws can do that to you, even if they are wonderful nice people :) (we ate there every meal for entire succos/shemini atzeres/simchas Torah), with the exception of a few meals we ate at someone else's sukkah chol hamoed.

Speaking of Simchas Torah...my kids had a blast. I managed to sneak into the shul with my triple stroller (strollers are banned from the main part of the shul due to fire regulations) but soon got caught and was nicely asked to park my stroller outside. I am too paranoid to leave the stroller where anyone can just walk off with it, so I walked it back to the inlaws house and my mother in law watched the babe while I took my lil girl to shul. Kid #1 was already with hubby. Kid #1 had a blast. He kissed every Torah, rode on his daddy's shoulders, and called everyone with a beard in the mens section rabbi. LOL. My hubby had mentioned to him lets go over to where the rabbi is, so he started yelling Hi Rabbi to everyone :). He even saw his pediatrician and called him a rabbi too, but the pediatrician just corrected him and said, no, Doctor. :) My son is so funny. He told me the other day he wants to be a rabbi. Hey, why not? :) I think that would be pretty cool. :) Meet my son the rabbi :) hehe. :)
My daughter was very shy when with hubby dancing with the Torah. Hubby said she hid her face behind her sippy cup and him the entire time. It was extremely crowded, and it is the first time she was ever in a crowd like that, so I can imagine all those people crowding and dancing around might scare a two year old if she is not used to that.

And now, for the pregancy update: I am now 28 weeks pregnant B"H. The real countdown begins! 12 weeks to go! I am officially in the beginning of my third trimester now. Time really flies.. :)

Monday, October 04, 2004

even more Yom Tov...

3 days of yom tov have passed...3 more to go. Luckily we had nice weather for the start of Succos. My wee one developed a cold on Shabbos, but B"H seems to be doing well (No ear infections..yay! :) he had his ear tube check up today and he seems to be doing well. On our previous appoinment, before the tubes were put in, he had a mild to moderate hearing loss due to fluid and ear infections. On today's visit, as of now, his ears are normal, and hearing appears to be normal, but we have to go back in 3 months time to make sure his hearing is still ok and see how the tubes are doing.

I got off track there a bit..now back to Yom Tov. Shemini Atzeres/Simchas Torah is coming up this week. I am glad we don't *have* to eat in the sukkah as it's supposed to be very cold. I would like to have hubby take the oldest to the Simchas Torah dancing, but being it is usually a mad house in the shul on this day, I don't think it's going to work due to logistics. It is hard to bring a triple stroller in to the shulwhen there is no room to move, and then have to find hubby to deliver the oldest to him, and find him later, so we can go back and make kiddush, and eat, etc. There is at least 1,000 people there in my opinion. So in the end, I think me and the kiddies may miss out this time. I am almost seven months pregnant and the idea of getting smushed and shoved by a mob of people is not very appealing.

Yes, almost seven months pregnant. My, how time flies. I am 27 weeks now B"H. :) I feel kind of yucky though today, and I am not sure if i have a bladder infection. Over the weekened I had some pain and pressure in my bladder, not constant though, so I think it's from the baby pressing down, and from my prolapse also adding pressure. But today I have an annoying pain in my side, not really where my kidneys are. I still have the urge to go to the washroom too, but not constant. I can't get in to see my family physician. There are a few appointments available, but towards the end of the day, and he is going to most likely be backed up, and the afternoon is not a good time for me, as hubby gets home from work around 6 and we are going out to eat in someone's sukkah. If my doc is backed up there is a good chance I wont' be home in time. I think I will just go into a walk in clinic. The problem is, the results of the urine culture won't be back in time before start of Yom Tov wednesday evening. I am hoping to just get a prescription for macrobid and be on my way.

Well, lunch is waiting for me now, so I am signing off of this post..