A day in the life of a mother

This blog is about a day in the life of a frum (orthodox Jewish) mother with small children.

Monday, October 31, 2005

we have an appointment time B"H!!

but it's in January. January 11th, #1 has to see a pediatric cardiologist. Hubby got the message slightly mixed up. He probably will go for the echocardiogram, but first he has to see the doctor. I hope they can do it on the same day, as its a 45 minute drive to get there. 2 months is a long wait in my opinion, but I have waited as much as 6 months to see a gastroentrologist (I probably spelled that wrong. besides, B"H my son just has a mild murmur. I am sure if it was urgent he would have gotten in much faster. when I had my first sinus tachycardia episode when I was pregnant with #4, I got into the cardiologist within 2 weeks, and he normally had a wait time of 4 months. Now I just have to sit tight and wait.

Sunday, October 30, 2005

Wait times just to make an appointment?!?!?!

This is nonsense. I have been waiting for a week for an appointment time for my son's echocardiogram. Now, B"H, its just a very mild murmur, and the doc is just having the ultrasound done to be sure everything is good with my son's heart. But it should NOT take a week for a medical office to get back with an appointment time. There is no excuse. Yes, I am sure the office is busy and gets a lot of referrals, but there is a child waiting for a test. It's enough he is going to probably have to wait weeks for the ultrasound itself, but to wait weeks just to make a freaking appointment?!? That's canada for you. I am not surprised, but I am frustrated with the way the system works. Health care sucks here in Ontario. you may have to pay for health care in the states and I know health care in the states is not perfect, but at least people get seen in a reasonable amount of time. I think canada should consider a two tier health care system. It could work if its done properly. build some instituitions that people can pay privately for some procedures if they don't want to wait a year to have a procedure done. As canadians, we are entitled to free health care (though we pay a LOT in taxes because of the "free healthcare"). What's the point of free health care if people have a poor quality of life due to pain while they wait for 6 months for just an appointment and a year after that for surgery? why should people have to suffer?? I wonder how many people with cancer have it metastisize before they can receive their chemo or get their surgery for it? I knew someone who's mother had stage 3 ovarian cancer and there was a wait time for her to receive chemo. Unfortunately, she passed away after a battle with the ovarian cancer, it had spread to her abdomen and colon, but who knows, if she had received her chemo right away instead of waiting a month for it, would it have made a difference?? we'll never know unfortunately.

In any case, I am going to be seeing the pediatrician on Wednesday for kid #4's well baby check up, and I am going to ask him why is it taking so long just to make an appointment for my son's procedure. Frustrating.

I am done ranting now. :)

Monday, October 24, 2005

My Mitvah boy needs an echocardiogram

Today was #1's 5 year check up. The pediatrician detected a slight heart murmur so we have to take him in for an ultrasound of the heart. The office faxed in a referral, and the ultrasound place will call the doc's office with an appointment time, who then will in turn, call me and let me know. I am worried, how will they get him to sit still long enough for an ultrasound of his heart?? On a brighter note, he grew 2 1/2 inches and is now 41 inches. he also gained a pound and is now 38 lbs. The doc wasn't concerned about the weight gain. I guess I am a typical Jewish mommy who wants her son to eat :)

Have a Good Yom Tov. Hopefully the weather will agree so I can take the kids to Simchas Torah dancing.

Thursday, October 20, 2005

Scary experience

Tonight, we were eating pizza for dinner. My 5 year old always takes small bites, and it was only a small slize of pizza from a medium pie and I have never had a problem with him choking on anything before ever. But tonight, he accidentally swallowed a piece without chewing well. His airway was partially obstructed, but he could breathe B"H, but it was raspy. I could see the piece lodged in the back of his throat, but I knew because it was so far back if I tried to remove it with a sweep I would manage to push it in farther G-d forbid. So, I got him into position for the Heimlech maneuver, and just as I was about to do an abdominal thrust, he threw it up because he was so frightened, B"H. I have never been so scared in my life. but being it wasn't a total airway obstruction I wasn't 100 percent panicked, just 95 percent.. If I couldn't get it out after 1 minute I was going to call 911, but I am glad I didn't have to. Besides, the way the ambulances are here, it would be a half hour before one showed up. I bet hatzoloh would have been here way before the ambulance. My son was fine immediately after he spit it out, though his throat is a bit sore. even though it was only a matter of a few seconds, it seemed like an eternity. it gave me quite a good scare. B"H he is fine. I still feel like a basketcase. I think I will make a hot cocoa and try to relax.

Tomorrow is his Hebrew birthday BTW. :) now he is 5 on both the secular and Hebrew calendar. :)

Monday, October 17, 2005

my mitzvah boy is 5 today!! :)

my first born is officially 5 years old today! I can't believe how time flies. He is getting to be so big now. :) 5 years ago today, at this time, I was exhausted beyond belief from a 17 hour induced labour that ended up with mid forceps delivery, after 2 hours of pushing with him in a posterior position. He's worth it though :)

Happy 5th birthday to my mitzvah boy :)


On motzei shabbos, hubby went with his dad to get lulav and esrog. The kids were all asleep too, so being I was bored, I turned on the TV, and started watching the Poltergeist movie, the original one. Boy, I scared myself out of my wits. Not a good movie to watch when you are alone LOL. it's still scary even when its the 100th time you have watched it.

sorry I havent' posted much its been crazy because of all the holidays. I am looking forward to sukkos tonight, but its supposed to rain tonight..70 percent chance. :( let's hope it doesnt' rain or no sukkah eating tonight.

Will post more after yom tov is over.

Sunday, October 09, 2005

Testing is all done

we are officially finished with the psychoeducational assessment for kid #1. Now we just have to wait for the results. I am really worried, because the psychologist commented to me how my son gets fixated on cetain things, such as a drink of water, or going on the subway. For example, he told me during the testing session today, my son kept interrupting, saying he had to go home now, or, alternatively, he wants water. Both the psychologist and I felt it was a stalling tatic to distract the doctor from getting him to finish the task he was supposed to do for the testing. Another example is, after the testing was over, the doc wanted to go over some of my answers I left blank on a questionare about my son, as I was unsure of what was being asked. While I was answering the blank questions the doc had clarified for me, my son got extremely agitated, shouting lets go now, and pulling on me. I am worried what the report is going to say about my son, but like my best friend told me, who is a mother of an autistic child and had to go for the same testing, the report doesnt' change who my son is, it just tells me more about him. The doc is going to call me in 2 weeks G-d willing when he should be finished writing it up, and make an appointment for me and hubby to go in and discuss his findings. This report is going to shape the rest of my son's school career, as to where he will go next September. I am getting worried becuase when I mentioned to the psychologist about applying for next year at School (insert name here) he kind of got a bit funny about it. I am not sure if the doc thinks he should stay where he is (G-d I hope not. I think if thats the case hubby and I will enroll him in public school for one year next year.). Anyway, I shouldn't put the cart before the horse. I got to hold tight until the doc finishes the report.

I am tired and have heartburn, so I am going to sign off for now. Happy turkey day to all the canadians reading my blog.

Mashed Potatoes and Phone Jacks

The other day, I served sheppard's pie for dinner. My almost 2 year old's high chair happens to be right near the phone jack in the kitchen that we don' use as its faulty. the brilliant people from Bell who originally installed it, had it literally a quarter of an inch from the ground in the kitchen. Bad idea. Anyway, about an hour after dinner ended, I had a phone call, but it the phone was acting strangely. It rang half a ring, but I answered anyway, and there was somone on the line (my mother). I started talking to her but all of a sudden, static interrupted and the connection was lost. Then, we couldn't get any dial tone at all, and when I tried to call the house from my cell, our voice mail picked up right away, as if our phone was off the hook, when it really wasn't. this happened to us once before as well, but it didn't occur to me to check the phone jack. I put a service call in to bell, who put a work order in for a technician to come the next day. Later on, I checked the phone jack in the kitchen, and saw it was full of mashed potatoes from the sheppard's pie. i tried to clean it out with a q-tip. Bad idea as sparks came out. I called for hubby, who disconnected it and cleaned it out. we are going to leave it disconnected permanently so we won't have this problem again.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving day in Canada, but both kids have school (thank G-d LOL). One of them has half a day though, and one has a full day.

I wonder how long it will take for my son's school to realize I pulled out that application they tricked me into signing so they can get their so called funding.

Got to go feed the baby, who is 9 months old today. :) We also have an appointment for another round of testing for our son's psychoeducational assessment.

Sunday, October 02, 2005

No Stroller Again!

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH. The stroller I was supposed to get didn't work out AGAIN. there was an emergency in the lady's family but she wasn't able to let me know in time, before I left to see it, and I was waiting for a good half hour outside the house. I guess its bashert because she had left it outdoors, chained up, and I was able to closely inspect the stroller, but I am looking for something in a bit newer condition with less wear. Back to square one I guess looking for a stroller. This is so frustrating, its almost as difficult as buying a house.
Being outbid, trying to negotiate a bid, viewing the stroller. So competitive, so frustrating. I feel like crying..I really need a triple stroller badly and so far every time I have tried to get one it hasn't worked out. and the stupid wheel keeps falling off my crappy double stroller. AAAAARG.

On a brighter note, another lady emailed me with a stroller she is selling, but she wants more than I can afford. I am hoping she will consider lowering her price, but I am not sure if she will. Back to square one. Waah :(

I am going now, because a. I feel achy and sick b. I am tired and want to nap.


Welcome to Ebay Hell

Well, I got my first negative feedback from this lady who I think was not kosher. The stroller i was supposed to buy from ebay fell through. Rather, I cancelled my transaction. I was spending a LOT of money first of all, 480 dollars (576 Canadian) for a triple peg perego, plus I would have to pay customs on it when it came in, 15 percent tax. I sent the money via paypal, and the lady was NOT registered, even though she advertised as accepting paypal. MAYBE it was a legitimate mistake, but I got a funny feeling, when the money sat there unclaimed for several days. So I cancelled the transaction, because I was worried, if she doesn't even know how to verify her paypal account, how can I trust her to send the stroller properly? She had never sent to canada before, and she also had a feeback of 2, so with all those things combined, and given the price of what I was paying, and my instinct was funny about it, I cancelled. So she left me neg. feed back. Better to have negative feedback than be out 500 bucks, I say.

Then, I sold a bunch of records on ebay a few months ago. everyone got theirs fine, but this one guy. He claimed it took 3 weeks for it to come, and then he said it broke. He sent it back to me. It was broken clean down the middle, with a big obvious thumbprint on either side of it. Obviously he did it on purpose because he did not like it. He had written me a letter too, saying it was not really mint because of the #69 stamped on the sleeve. he claimed it means its only 69 cents. I don't know, It was my uncle's record from when he was growing up...MAYBE it means 1969?? the record was a clean break with thumprints. I am a sucker for giving him a refund. he doesn't deserve one. My husband agreed with me that it looks done on purpose. I showed it to my mother in law who also agreed. I am never going to sell another thing on ebay again, unless its BRAND NEW. that way no one can give me any problems about it. Anyway..

Well, kid #3 has bronchitis and is on Zithromax. I feel kind of yuck, my throat is sore. I still have things to do though. This afternoon we are going for the second round of testing for Kid #1's psychoeducational assessment. I also found a nice lady in my area who is selling a peg perego triplet stroller, so I am going with my mother in law to pick it up after the appointment. Please G-d let this stroller be in good condition! My daughter is driving me insane with refusing to walk anywhere and just plopping down in the middle of the sidewalk and throwing a tantrum because she wants her triple stroller to ride in. My little Princess LOL.

And more stuff: Strrrrrrrike 3 for my son's school, except I am too chicken to pull him out. They misrepresented themselves yet again. they had me sign this form saying its for funding for his services at school f(he gets OT, and speech)so I signed it, not knowing it was a referral for early intervention that usually provides this stuff for kids with challenges in public school system who would not get these services without the referall. I am paying this school out of my pocket for these services, what are they doing with my money?????I have a whole host of problems with whtat his school did. A. the school told me it wouldnt' change anything, just that they would get funding. I don't want some strange people I don't know and have never met working with him, when I am paying the school a lot of money for this stuff. B. I had no idea a home visit to study my son was involved, because the school said I wouldn't have to do anything on my part except sign the form. I don't appreciate an invasion into my privacy, especially when my son doesn't even NEED it. C. They ADDED stuff to the form after I had signed it and turned it in, they added a personal support worker!!!!! He DOES NOT NEED ONE!! I AM MAD! How dare they! They didn't want me to see what else he needed so they did it after I signed it and turned it in! Chutzpah! I don't appreciate being lied to. I never authorized that, and I would not have signed it if I saw it. He has ADHD, that is all. He doesn't belong in a school filled with mentally challenged children, and other serious disabilities. He has a kid in his class who is obviously mentally disturbed and a bit violent, I saw this kid on Friday push the teacher into the TV. I don't want my son exposed to violent kids. I think he was autistic and acting out, but I am not sure. I really want to pull him out of this school I have had enough crap in the 1 month into school to last a life time. I just don't know where else to put him..There is a new school but its non denominational and he would not be learing yiddishkeit there..hubby and I have to think more about pulling him out or not.

anyway, I am feeling a bit tired, so I am signing off now..will post more later.